To be socially successful,you need to be warm, optimistic, resilient, confident and persuasive.
There’s more to life than being intelligent and being admired for solving problems and doing maths. But what really makes a great life is ability to deal with people, being good at controlling your emotions, responding well to other people’s moods and communicating skillfully.
Take decision to accept people the way they are, rather than trying to change them and be more thoughtful and considerate.
Restraining anger can certainly lift your social life. But for real successful social life you also need to be warm, optimistic and resilient. Confident, persuasive and inspiring.
Restrain self_doubt and negative thought while projecting self_respect and honesty. Learn how to read social situations,see yourself as others see you,and understand other people’s behaviour by developing your awareness of your emotions. Noticing your moods and trying to figure out what triggered each.
Train yourself to recognize and challenge unhelpful thoughts,like thinking you will fail, blaming others for your problems or focusing on the worst possible outcome.
Work on how to be assertive and expressing difficult emotions,making your stand known, how to say no and how to set your priorities.
Never assume others know what you are thinking,say what you want and what you are thinking and don’t be afraid of conflict.
Never miss an opportunity to build your social life and before you know it, your whole life will be loads better!