What does being a real man entail? How many men like the idea of being a man?
We can agree that being a real man is more than just wearing a pants.
Prince Harry ‘critics’ thinks they know what being a man entails and how the Duke of Sussex should behave in order to be a real man but often they are mistaken. Being a man is not being a chauvinist who runs down women, children or little cats with no say in the house.
A real man is aware that he is wired to fight battle, rescue a beauty (Meghan Markle) and live an adventure. In this case if you ask me ,that is precisely what our good king Harry is doing.
If you look at prince Harry’s recent life closely perhaps last two years, you will notice that he has been more aware and alert. He is not killing time but trying to accomplish and take over mountains. He is initiating himself to become the person he himself want to be but not what his critics want him to be.
Moving out of UK was a process for Prince Harry to learn and accomplish certain things that he could not while still there.
Initiation to manhood involves series of test. In case of Harry,choosing between the firm and his family was a test ,and to be honest he passed. Real men learn to feel the would. Being slammed for leaving the monarchy and his “poor family” is a would which he admitted hurt and was not shameful to admit.
He understands that acting like a hero in a movie who even after being wounded keeps on charging at the enemy won’t lead to a good direction. Prince Harry understand that would can come from words spoken by a person of authority and can be accepted as the reality. As a result,the wounded man can try to prove that he is a man by indulging in destructive behavior or activities which is what his ‘critics’ want from him .
By writing this memoir prince Harry is removing false identity. When his mother died he built walls and defense mechanism to putt off further pain but by writing this book and talking more often of his pain, truth is he is shedding these shields,walls and barriers and this has to be a way of his healing. This does not sit well with his ‘critics’ and that why they lable him as not being a real man.
But doe his ‘critics’ really understand what being a real man entails?