Month: July 2021

Month: July 2021

If you look at prince Harry’s recent life closely perhaps last two years, you will notice that he has been more aware and alert. He is not killing time but trying to accomplish and take over mountains. He is initiating himself to become the person he himself want to be but not what his critics want him to be.

Nyakio

What does being a real man entail? How many men like the idea of being a man?

We can agree that being a real man is more than just wearing a pants.

Prince Harry ‘critics’ thinks they know what being a man entails and how the Duke of Sussex should behave in order to be a real man but often they are mistaken. Being a man is not being a chauvinist who runs down women, children or little cats with no say in the house.

A real man is aware that he is wired to fight battle, rescue a beauty (Meghan Markle) and live an adventure. In this case if you ask me ,that is precisely what our good king Harry is doing.

If you look at prince Harry’s recent life closely perhaps last two years, you will notice that he has been more aware and alert. He is not killing time but trying to accomplish and take over mountains. He is initiating himself to become the person he himself want to be but not what his critics want him to be.

Moving out of UK was a process for Prince Harry to learn and accomplish certain things that he could not while still there.

Initiation to manhood involves series of test. In case of Harry,choosing between the firm and his family was a test ,and to be honest he passed. Real men learn to feel the would. Being slammed for leaving the monarchy and his “poor family” is a would which he admitted hurt and was not shameful to admit.

He understands that acting like a hero in a movie who even after being wounded keeps on charging at the enemy won’t lead to a good direction. Prince Harry understand that would can come from words spoken by a person of authority and can be accepted as the reality. As a result,the wounded man can try to prove that he is a man by indulging in destructive behavior or activities which is what his ‘critics’ want from him .

By writing this memoir prince Harry is removing false identity. When his mother died he built walls and defense mechanism to putt off further pain but by writing this book and talking more often of his pain, truth is he is shedding these shields,walls and barriers and this has to be a way of his healing. This does not sit well with his ‘critics’ and that why they lable him as not being a real man.

But doe his ‘critics’ really understand what being a real man entails?

What does a working royal mean?. Is it the number of hours spent working for the Royal Family?

Nyakio

I find these discussions very interesting. It speaks to the assumptions about how the Royal Family, essentially a family business using taxpayer money works. We have made assumptions on what a “full time” working royal means. Is it the number of hours spent working for the Royal Family?

Is it the location/property where the duties are carried out? Is there a full that someone who works “full time” cannot undertake any other personal engagements? Example as an NHS worker, could you not own a private business on the side generating separate income?

It is naive to think that the way the Royals work is set in stone. It is not. It boils down to money and control. Basically prince Harry wanted to earn his own money and still work for the Queen. Which normal person wouldn’t want that? Earning his own money came with issues.

Would he be funded only for royal engagements? He would need security for both private and public work, was there an option to split this? Especially if he was going to be at another location. More importantly he would be making his own rules regarding media involvement.

We all know prince Harry’s intention was to not work with the Rota. Was all this possible? Hell yes! Any business person would have negotiated the hell of that deal before letting Harry, “chief impact officer” go. An entire cash cow, your money maker, your key player. Nah. They fumbled.

They played to the gallery. The Queen was busy shielding Andrew, the media were crying out for blood and they fed prince Harry to the wolves. Then the media coined this “half in, half out” terminology to convince us that prince Harry was asking for the moon to do the work he was already doing.

They said he wanted to have his cake- this same cake that they were all eating. Nah. Because Harry and Meghan eating that cake, being free to roam the world, doing good would make them unstoppable. And in so doing, open the Firm to further scrutiny with respect to funding

If Harry can do it- make his own money, make impactful changes in the world, work for the Firm, then why not all Royals? The public could want more financial transparency. The media would descend again. And ofcourse there’s the argument about “popularity envy”

The palace indeed fumbled and have been trying to pick up the pieces since then. They lost a key player and cannot really justify why.

What if you could have more_in your processions than you have? What if you could be more than what you are?

Nyakio

If your life were a rubber band, would you be flaccid or a stretched one?

The secret is believing in yourself that you can do it. No human is limited and it’s always possible to break a barrier.

What if everything you are experiencing today is below your average potential? Have you ever tasted limit of what is possible? Don’t you think God expect more of you than what He gave you?

What if the goal of life is to become everything that is possible given what you have now? What if the goal of life is to become the best, highest, most loving versions of yourself? What if you are expected to take what you have and double it? What does that look like in each of your individual context? Where do you limit yourself ?

Jim Rohn:, wrote,

“the biggest challenge is becoming all that you have the possibility of becoming. You cannot believe what it does to the human spirit to maximize your human potential and stretch yourself to the limit.”

You are not maximizing your existence because you lack self belief. You are probably too lazy to test your limit. You will be surprised to know that you have more capacity to survive than you believe. God is just asking you to take everything He gave you and push to the next level.

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