Every cloud has a silver lining

“My plans are ruined!” “What am I going to do now?” “Why did this have to happen?” These are our immediate reactions to every setbacks in our life. Its natural but disappointment should wear off immediately because you have a choice to make. Do not wallow in misery and dwell on the negative aspect of the situation but find the benefit or lesson that the problem at hand is offering.

Yes,you will probably face a period of uncertainty or struggle but there is always a flip side to the difficulty. A problem may not be a problem but an opportunity. A certain problem may come your way to show you an adjustment or change you can make to improve a certain condition in your life. Without the said problem,you would never have acknowledged the positive action.

Let see,a certain person has been fired from his or her job. This certain person goes on to start his or her business. The business becomes very successful and probably he or she is making more than what he or she used to make before. If we ask the said person ,he or she will testify that without been laid off,the business would never have been started. What started as an adversity ended up as a golden opportunity.

Be like an entrepreneur who sees opportunities everywhere he looks not like people who sees only problems everywhere they look.

Life isn’t perfect but we all have a chance,an opportunity or a right to embrace each new day to do many things. We can decide to make it a great day or we can simply squander it with pettiness,old grudges or dwelling on previous mistakes.

A lot of times,you see a situation that causes you the real problem. However,if you turn it around and see the problem as a challenge,you will also see that there is an opportunity right before your eyes. If you call it an opportunity instead of buckling under the loud of the word crisis tragedy or a disaster then you can start taking advantage of what has happened.

Effective people are not problems minded, they are opportunity skinned. They feed opportunities and starve problems. Be like entrepreneurs who is always on the lookout for problems that can be turned into opportunities and finds creative ways to leverage limited resources to reach there goals.

Do not get in the way by limiting the level of fulfilment,abundance and prosperity readily available to you through dispempowering thought and the company of emotions that go with them.

Remember,things that hurt, instruct.

While celebrating success we should also highlight the epic journey towards success that are filled with trials,tribulations,upsets,setbacks and failures. Its not as glamorous to talk about those things but its important. Failure as much as its hurt is an important part of our life. Most successful people in our life have failed most of the time.

“I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. 26 times,I have been trusted to take the winning shot and missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”

_ Michael Jordan

In order to grow,you need to fail,it is life’s ultimate lesson. Failing will happen ,no matter how hard you try to avoid it so you might as well have a ‘no fear’ attitude towards it. This should not mean you should expect to fail,but when it happens accept it.

Failure has value. Through failure you will get to know yourself better and you will learn from your mistakes. Failure makes us rethink,reconsider and find new ways and strategies to achieve your goals.

When you think about failure,you should not think in a negative light. Yes its painful and causes emotional turmoil and upsets. It inflicts agonizing pangs of guilt ,regrets and remorse. It may even cut deep like a razor slicing its way to your inner core,yet its necessary. The key to success is in how you handle failure. Handling failure does not come Naturally to some people. It an acquired skill. Some of our emotions tell us to sulk and avoid any situation in future that are likely to put us in the line to feel the pain of failure and its where we go astray.

So many times in our life our fear of falling keeps us from beginning. We have to ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Start with one small thing,make it something you know you will succeed at….,build your confidence and momentum and keep going. I say this because,the regret of never having tried can hurt worse than trying and failing.

Bear in mind that,the many times you fail are many steps to your success.

Commitment is the essence of ultimate secret to getting absolutely everything you want. Its willingness to do whatever it takes to accomplish your goals. Willingness is a mental attitude that state if it takes waking up 3 in the morning to accomplish your goals then you will wake up 3 in the morning. This means that to succeed,you will make a commitment to do whatever it takes regardless of the nature of the conditions involved.

This means that you have to make a commitment to achieve your goals then you will follow through with relentless determination and action until you achieve the desired result.

There is power that exist and its becomes available only when you are in that state of mind in which you know exactly what you want and you are fully determined not to quit until you achieve it.

Commitment is the act of having passion for what you do. Its helps you discover how bad you want to succeed. It leads to ownership and ownership will lead you to success.

Commitment is the principal of all. It will help you to make a pledge that will obligates you to do what it takes for you to succeed.

If there is anything that can affect how you think its commitment. Its extremely powerful and to succeed you need perseverance. Perseverance can only happen if you have a heartfelt,longterm commitment. The temptation to give up will arise but it is commitment you will have made that will help you get through and find success.

Jeff Keller argued in his book that,when you are committed,its likely you will not be derailed. Those who are not committed are derailed easily thus not achieving their goals

For instance,most people start a business with approach of ‘I will give it one year if it does not work out after one year I will quit This is where commitment separates the winners from losers. The committed people are going to hang in there and prevail no matter what. If it takes a little longer then they thought so be it,but they will never quit. Those who are not committed are going to give up the ship when things don’t work out.

Just stay true to yourself,set long term goals,turn problems into opportunities and make commitment to do whatever it takes and start moving forward.

Remember, one person with a commitment is worth more than 100 people who have only an interest.