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“BIRTHDAY SUIT”, Meghan Markle, Duchess of Sussex own birthday message on her 33rd birthday.

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From The Tig archives,

“I am 33 years old today. And I am happy. And I say that so plainly because, well…it takes time. To be happy. To figure out how to be kind to yourself. To not just choose that happiness, but to feel it. My 20s were brutal – a constant battle with myself, judging my weight, my style, my desire to be as cool/as hip/as smart/as “whatever” as everyone else. My teens were even worse – grappling with how to fit in, and what that even meant. My high school had cliques: the black girls and white girls, the Filipino and the Latina girls. Being biracial, I fell somewhere in between. So everyday during lunch, I busied myself with meetings – French club, student body, whatever one could possibly do between noon and 1pm- I was there. Not so that I was more involved, but so that I wouldn’t have to eat alone.

I must have been about 24 when a casting director looked at me during an audition and said “You need to know that you’re enough. Less makeup, more Meghan.”

You need to know that you’re enough. A mantra that has now engrained itself so deeply within me that not a day goes by without hearing it chime in my head. That five pounds lost won’t make you happier, that more makeup won’t make you prettier, that the now iconic saying from Jerry Maguire -”You complete me” – frankly, isn’t true. You are complete with or without a partner. You are enough just as you are.

So for my birthday, here’s what I would like as a gift: I want you to be kind to yourself. I want you to challenge yourself. I want you to stop gossiping, to try a food that scares you, to buy a coffee for someone just because, to tell someone you love them…and then to tell yourself right back. I want you to find your happiness.

I did. And it’s never felt so good.

I am enough.”

Royal reporting has become a joke.They don’t care about the Royal Family, their work, charities or engagements. They care about the Sussexes.

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Royal reporting has become a joke. Clearly before the Sussexes there wasn’t much to do, except report on the hats and coats the Royals wore to events. When Meghan Markle stepped into the scene, it was article after article after article about utter bullshit.

They don’t care about the Royal Family, their work, charities or engagements. The UK Royals have announced a series of “big projects” which the press barely spent time on yet one whiff of anything the Sussexes are doing it’s analysis after analysis for weeks on end.

They care about the Sussexes. Even when nothing is happening, the press will create a story to keep the gossip going, it is guaranteed to get attention, attention means money. Going back to the old days on reporting on the Meghan sister in law wardrobe is not an option.

Instead we must hear about the “15 bathrooms”, “20 million dollar Netflix deal”, “30 million dollar book deal”, “the 17 lies told at the interview”. This is where the money resides. This is what their readers want to hear. Who cares about climate change, Earth shot, Early years?

Certainly not the “royal audience”. There in lies the dilemma because when you put a magnifying glass on the comments from this audience I am certain the palace are worried. These are not the kind of “friends” you want on your team. They are not the future.

Many with common sense move away from the kind of distasteful commentary in the British tabloid media- they are attracted to charity, justice, equality and impactful work. This daily obsession of fantasising on the Sussexes is no longer trendy. It’s old, it’s boring, it’s done.

If you look at prince Harry’s recent life closely perhaps last two years, you will notice that he has been more aware and alert. He is not killing time but trying to accomplish and take over mountains. He is initiating himself to become the person he himself want to be but not what his critics want him to be.

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What does being a real man entail? How many men like the idea of being a man?

We can agree that being a real man is more than just wearing a pants.

Prince Harry ‘critics’ thinks they know what being a man entails and how the Duke of Sussex should behave in order to be a real man but often they are mistaken. Being a man is not being a chauvinist who runs down women, children or little cats with no say in the house.

A real man is aware that he is wired to fight battle, rescue a beauty (Meghan Markle) and live an adventure. In this case if you ask me ,that is precisely what our good king Harry is doing.

If you look at prince Harry’s recent life closely perhaps last two years, you will notice that he has been more aware and alert. He is not killing time but trying to accomplish and take over mountains. He is initiating himself to become the person he himself want to be but not what his critics want him to be.

Moving out of UK was a process for Prince Harry to learn and accomplish certain things that he could not while still there.

Initiation to manhood involves series of test. In case of Harry,choosing between the firm and his family was a test ,and to be honest he passed. Real men learn to feel the would. Being slammed for leaving the monarchy and his “poor family” is a would which he admitted hurt and was not shameful to admit.

He understands that acting like a hero in a movie who even after being wounded keeps on charging at the enemy won’t lead to a good direction. Prince Harry understand that would can come from words spoken by a person of authority and can be accepted as the reality. As a result,the wounded man can try to prove that he is a man by indulging in destructive behavior or activities which is what his ‘critics’ want from him .

By writing this memoir prince Harry is removing false identity. When his mother died he built walls and defense mechanism to putt off further pain but by writing this book and talking more often of his pain, truth is he is shedding these shields,walls and barriers and this has to be a way of his healing. This does not sit well with his ‘critics’ and that why they lable him as not being a real man.

But doe his ‘critics’ really understand what being a real man entails?

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